Suicide: When Pain Exceeds Resources for Coping

by Neseret on November 22, 2011

Lotus“Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.”

As a mental health nurse I have worked with many individuals from all walks of life who felt suicidal. Many people have fleeting thoughts of ending their life or a wish that they were no longer alive when going through extremely stressful or traumatic events in their life. However some people seriously consider ending their life from this place of despair and hopelessness. They come to a point in their life when they don’t see a way out. They become engulfed with constant thoughts of taking their own life.

(If you are currently thinking about and or considering suicide please take the time right now to read a very important message. Click HERE. Know you’re not alone and there is a way out of whatever situation you’re in. Right now it may not seem that way to you but if you can just take it one moment at time and seek help you’ll get through this.)

You may or may not be aware of how much of a public health issue suicide is at present. However,

according to the World Health Organization almost 3,000 people commit suicide every day in the world.

* For every person that succeeds in taking their own life there are at least 20 more who try.

* The global suicide rate is up 60% over the last 50 years with an even more marked increase in the developed world.

* Suicide is among the top three causes of death among people between 15 and 34 years old, but most suicide victims are found among the elderly, those aged 60 and above.

* Suicide worldwide causes more deaths every year than homicide or war. Suicide is a huge but largely preventable public health problem, causing almost half of all violent deaths and resulting in almost one million fatalities every year. Estimates suggest fatalities could rise to 1.5 million by 2020.

* In 90% of suicides, mental illness is the attributing cause.

Why do people consider ending their life? Why do people commit suicide? There are multiple factors that contribute to a person becoming seriously suicidal. There are various social, economical, mental and emotional stressors that have been strongly linked with risk for suicide. For example feelings of hopelessness is one of the hallmark of someone thinking about suicide as a solution.

Other factors include depression, recent loss of a loved one, diagnosis of terminal illness, financial hardship, breakdown of an important relationship (ie: going through separation or divorce), and history of substance abuse. The more stressors and risk factors an individual has in their life the greater they’re at risk.

People often also voice they’re thinking about harming themselves. They may have previously attempted suicide and this puts them in a much higher risk for self harm. Some people believe individuals who talk about committing suicide are seeking attention but

all suicidal ideation (thoughts of harming self) need to be taken seriously.

(Again If you are currently thinking about and or considering suicide please take the time right now to read a very important message. Click HERE. Know you’re not alone and there is a way out of whatever situation you’re in. Right now it may not seem that way to you but if you can just take it one moment at time and seek help you’ll get through this.)

For those of you who may have a family member or a friend who is considering suicide please encourage your friend or loved one to talk about their feelings and support them in seeking professional help. Many people are afraid of talking about suicide with their friends or loved ones because they’re afraid they might make things worse by talking about it.

When I first started working as a mental health nurse I remember being very nervous and uncomfortable while doing suicide risk assessments. However, what I have learned overtime is that most people are quiet relieved to talk about their feelings. They want to know people care and they of course want solutions to the problems of life. They usually also have a part of them deep down, however small it maybe at times, that wants to live.

Suicide is a serious public health issue. We need to open a dialogue not only in our own life with the people who are close to us but also as a community and society at large. Suicide is preventable. As human beings our innermost desire is to know we are not alone and that we are appreciated and loved.

We need to extend support, love, and care for those who are in emotional turmoil and pain. Ultimately love is what heals people!

Please take time to share your questions and comments below. If you found this article helpful please pass it forward!

Blessings and Peace,

Neseret,

(If you are currently thinking about and or considering suicide please take the time right now to read a very important message. Click HERE. Know you’re not alone and there is a way out of whatever situation you’re in. Right now it may not seem that way to you but if you can just take it one moment at at time and seek help you’ll get through this.

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