Pain and Suffering

by Neseret on July 6, 2011

Red Rose

There are two levels to your pain: the pain that you create now, and the pain from your past that still lives on in your mind and body.

As long as you are unable to access the power of the Now, every emotional pain that you experience leaves behind a residue of pain that lives on in you. It merges with the pain from the past, which was already there, and becomes lodged in your mind and body. This, of course, includes the pain you suffered as a child, caused by the unconsciousness of the world in to which you were born.

This accumulated pain is a negative energy field that occupies your body and mind. If you look on it as an invisible entity on its own right, you are getting quite close to the truth. It’s the emotional pain-body.” ~ Eckhart Tolle, Practicing The Power of Now – Essential Teachings, Meditation, and Exercises from The Power of Now, page 75

Do you experience feelings of anger, depression, rage, jealousy, and hatred often? Is this affecting your intimate relationships and your life in general?

Most people experience pain at one point or another in their lives. Pain and suffering is typically created when you are resistant to what is. Pain can also be caused by other people as in something traumatic that happened when you were a child.

Unless pain is resolved it stays with you as a ‘negative energy field’ and it accumulates. This means you could still be caring pain from ten, twenty, or thirty years ago. Overtime this can become a huge baggage and burden to carry. The pain will also be heavy and intensified.

Eckhart Tolle describes this as ‘an invisible entity’ and calls it the ’emotional pain body’. This is an interesting name, but quiet fitting. Have you ever started to feel irritated and then before you know it you have totally ‘lost it’? Almost felt like you were taken over by something or someone else? Looking back you can say ‘That was not me!’ Well, you were temporarily taken over by your emotional pain body.

How do you know it is your emotional pain body? When you experience any type of intense negative emotional pain and you do things to perpetuate the pain then you know you’re taken over by the pain body.

Now, when I say you’re taken over by the pain body I don’t mean that you are helpless and possessed by this entity. It does not mean that you have no control to do something to help the situation and to stop the pain. It just means you have become unconscious. In this state you will do things that will cause you and others suffering.

Eckhart Tolle offers many suggestions on how to dissolve the pain body. There is a lot you can do to eliminate pain and suffering from your life.

The first thing you want to do is to become aware of your emotional patterns. Become aware of your thoughts and emotions before or as they happen. Ideally you would want to catch yourself before it happens but initially you may become aware while you’re in the midst of feeling anger or rage or depression or whatever you happen to be experiencing.

Here is the challenging part – observe, feel the feeling, and be present. It is one thing to be present when things are going well and you’re feeling great. However when you’re feeling intense emotional pain to stay with the feeling without becoming destructive will be difficult. This is where most people will get in to self medicating or perhaps cause damage to their relationships by saying something terrible or where violence happens.

“The truth is that the only power there is, is contained within this moment: It is the power of your presence. Once you know that, you also realize that you are responsible for your inner space now – nobody else is – and that the past cannot prevail against the power of the Now.” ~ Eckhart Tolle, Practicing The Power of Now – Essential Teachings, Meditation, and Exercises from The Power of Now, page 84

It is a wonderful thing to know that you are not condemned to feeling emotional pain and suffering for the rest of your life. You can choose to stop the pain and suffering. You can also decide to not create pain and suffering for yourself. There is a way out if you’re willing to do the work.

Becoming aware of your thoughts and emotions and being present while you’re experiencing them may at first be difficult if you’re not use to doing it. However the more you do it the easier it will become. Be patient.

PLEASE share your comments down below! I’d love to hear from you! And please also share this post on twitter or fb if you liked it! Thanks so much for spending time with me here today!

Blessings and Peace,


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Nelson Freed July 7, 2011 at 4:22 am

Accumulated pain from the past is subconciously stored in memory banks in our minds. The traumatic abuse say in a childhood for example stays with us for so long as at the time of occurrence we were not able to conceive of the true purpose of the lesson behind the event. An event dealing with pain is but disguised as a learning lesson to be acknowledged, recognized and healed from its true purpose on our path to further enlightenment. With Love and Blessings along with Gratefulness, Nelson


Neseret July 7, 2011 at 2:15 pm

Hi Nelson,

I agree with you. I believe everything that happens in life happens for a reason and that there is lessons behind it. I was a victim of child abuse passed down from generations of dysfunctional family patterns. This was a very painful part of my life and it affected every aspect of my life.

For years I was filled with resentments and anger. I didn’t understand the lesson behind the event. It was after doing much studying and reading I came to realize that we are all “victims of victims” and that the lessons I learned from it were invalueable. I learned about acceptance and love for myself. I had to learn to accept and love myself.

I also learned about forgiveness and compassion. Those who betrayed me were also betrayed. They came from a place of pain and inflicted pain. I realize behind all the unconscious actions of others is fear and pain. It took me many years to come to a place of understanding and healing. I’m grateful for all the lessons in my life. I do wish there was an easier way to learn some of them but nevertheless things are they way they are.

Thanks for sharing your wisdom Nelson. Blessings and Peace,



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