Overcoming The Emotional Part Of Challenges

by Neseret on July 9, 2011

I recently did an exercise in my coaching class that made a huge difference in helping me feel better about a challenge I was facing. The exercise is to think of a challenge you’re facing currently in your life. The challenge can be in any aspect of your life.

Now start thinking about this challenge and pay attention to the feelings it brings. If it is a big challenge in your life it most likely will bring overwhelming feelings of anger, betrayal, frustration, fear and so on. Stay with the feeling and feel it. Notice any changes it brings in your body.

For me thinking about the challenge I was facing the dominant feeling that came through was fear. Fear of the unknown, and fear of failure, and fear of being separated from people I cared about. When I sat with these feelings I noticed a pit in my stomach, a lump in my throat and tears swelling up.

Everyone is different so pay attention to your feelings and bodily reactions. Now here is the tough part – stay with the feelings. Sit with them. What happened the first time I did this was that I felt extremely overwhelmed. However, doing this each and every day for a week I noticed that the intensity of the emotions lessened.

Sure the challenges were still there and the problems didn’t go away. You’ll still need to work through whatever challenges you’re facing. Action will still be required to overcome your challenges however it won’t feel like a daunting task. It is easier to get clarity and inspired action when you’re not plagued with intense emotions like frustration, anger, and fear.

Realize that challenges are part of life. We all get our share of challenges. What matters is how we look at challenges and what we do with them. Many people are paralyzed by the emotional part of challenges. They either avoid feeling their feelings, pretend there is no problem or become paralyzed with fear.

Taking the time to really think about the feelings and emotions that a challenge brings with it is an important step. It is usually very uncomfortable to do this. No wonder many people would rather choose to ignore it or numb themselves with alcohol or drugs or just simply not deal with it at all. This causes more problems and the challenge is still remains unsolved.

What I have learned is that when you have the courage to even sit with the feelings for a brief moment as scary and uncomfortable it maybe you are taking a step forward. The intensity of the feeling and discomfort will decrease overtime and will bring with it some clarity. It will allow you to take the necessary steps toward overcoming your challenge.

Know you’re not alone. You’re never alone. Understand that if you’re willing to face the emotional part of your challenge you can overcome your challenge. The emotional part is typically the hardest part. Please take time now to share a challenge you faced in the past and how you overcame the emotional part of it. If you’re currently facing a challenge please take the time to go through this exercise and come back and tell us how you feel.

Blessings and Peace,


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