Love Letter to the World…

by Neseret on October 28, 2012

Autumn FlowerThe saying goes “…it is easy to love those who love us” but to love those who “despise and revile” us is the challenge.

When we think of someone who has deeply hurt us or betrayed our trust the idea of loving them feels revolting. It may not even be so personal at times. It could be someone we hardly know. Maybe it is “those people” who wage war against innocent people. Just thinking about them brings on incredible anger bordering on hatred.

It could even be someone that just “annoys”  the hell out of us and or that person we just can’t stand because they are “ignorant, arrogant, plain stupid, selfish…” or whatever else comes at the end of that sentence. We ask “What is wrong with this person?”

Who are “these people” we hardly tolerate let alone love?

For me it was my own mother.

It is easy to judge people rather than to be willing to see where they’re coming from. It takes an incredible amount of understanding and compassion to ask “How did this person get here? How did they come to be this way?” as suppose to asking “What is wrong with them?”

I’m not saying it is easy to learn to love those who have hurt us.

It took me years just to forgive my own mother. Even longer to learn to look at her as a human being and begin to even care. Learning to forgive, let go and love is a lesson we all learn at our own pace. It is a process.

So accept and honor wherever you are in your journey. However when you are ready you can learn to let go of the pain and heartache that comes with holding on to resentments, hurts, and anger. Part of that begins with being willing to see where people are coming from.

It is also realizing that people already pay a price for being “selfish, arrogant, hurtful” etc…

What I have learned in my own life is that people who hurt other people are hurt people themselves. My mother was severely neglected and abused as a child and grew up to abuse me. She was a victim of violence who struggled to break the cycle.

This is not to excuse people’s behaviour or absolve them of responsibility for their own actions. It is however to realize that nothing happens out of a vacuum.

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

RJ Langevin November 15, 2012 at 3:06 pm

Thank you gurl…it definitely a better way to spend one’s time and energy. Rewarding.

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Neseret November 15, 2012 at 7:06 pm

Hi RJ,

You’re welcome! I agree with you. We only have limited amount of time and energy and it makes sense to use is wisely. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts here with me.

Wishing you many blessings and peace,

Neseret

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A. Rashid November 15, 2012 at 7:42 pm

Hi Neseret! Thank you for the letter. A great reminder regarding empathy, forgiveness, and tolerance. Practicing this way of perceiving the world and other human beings frees the mind, body, and soul from being a victim! We were all created from the same loving source and for that reason alone, we should learn to love and forgive each other more often. Lastly, thank you for sharing your story with the world. Sharing is healing!

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Neseret November 16, 2012 at 2:32 am

Dear Rashid,

You’re very welcome! Thank you visiting and sharing your thoughts here with me. I completely agree with you that we are all created from the same loving source. I didn’t always fully understand or appreciated that truth. However as I continue to work on my healing journey I realize my connection with everybody and every living thing. Truly understanding our oneness and interdependence is one of the most freeing experiences anyone can have. Then it becomes so much easier to extend love, because you recognize an aspect of yourself in every person you meet. As Eckhart Tolle beautifully put it, ultimately you see “there is no other”.

Peace, Love & Gratitude,

Neseret

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