How to Overcome Negativity

by Neseret on August 29, 2013

Negativity is an addiction to the bleak shadow that lingers around every human form … you can transfigure negativity by turning it toward the light of your soul.

JOHN O’DONOHUE, Anam Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom

We’re all afflicted with the negativity bug to one degree or another. Yet we all have the option of freeing ourselves from it anytime we choose.

At times it may feel like you have no control over your ability to choose your thoughts. Before you know it you find yourself caught in the downward spiral quicksand of negativity.

For many people negativity comes very naturally. Almost as if they were per-programed to be negative thinkers.

Then again most of us were never really taught how to use the greatest tool we have in our lives – our mind – let alone harnessing its’ incredible power.

I believe we all start out innocent, open, trusting, and optimistic.

We then experienced some form of pain, trauma, and betrayal. From there we learn to put up walls and begin operating from fear.

Negative thinking is a natural extension of negative experiences as well as direct misinformation. Misinformation can come from our parents, teachers, media, and society at large.

When you have been surrounded and lived with negativity for so long  it can seem like a normal part of life. However, negativity can take a toll on your health and well being and wreck a havoc in your life.

The good news is what is learned can be unlearned. Trauma can be healed and walls can be broken down.

You can learn to operate from love instead of fear.

Below I’m going to share with you a few strategies that will help you start making the shift.

1. Gratitude

Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul; and the heart of man knoweth none more fragrant. While its opponent, ingratitude, is a deadly weed; not only poisonous in itself but impregnating the very atmosphere in which it grows, with fetid vapors.

HOSEA BALLOU, Treasury of Thought

Those who have the ability to be grateful are the ones who have the ability to achieve greatness.

STEVE MARABOLI, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

Gratitude is the willingness to look for things that are working. It is the choice to put your attention on what you have instead of what is lacking.

As the saying goes gratitude is an attitude. It is a way of thinking and being. Gratitude is simple and easy.

It is a powerful tool that you have at your disposal everyday. At any given moment ask yourself these questions…

What is working well?

What do I appreciate and love about this… (person, place,  situation etc.)

What am I grateful for right now?

What is the positive aspect of this…(person, place, situation etc.) Courtesy of Ester and Jerry Hicks from the Teachings of Abraham

You can write the answers to these questions in a journal, a.k.a gratitude journal. You can also simply reflect and meditate upon these questions.

It takes time to get in the mental habit of being grateful. A great book that could help with this process is “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrne.

She takes you through a series of exercises over 28 days designed to strengthen your gratitude muscles.

2. Change the Input

People tend to be generous when sharing their nonsense, fear, and ignorance. And while they seem quite eager to feed you their negativity, please remember that sometimes the diet we need to be on is a spiritual and emotional one. Be cautious with what you feed your mind and soul. Fuel yourself with positivity and let that fuel propel you into positive action.

― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

You’ve heard the saying “…garbage in, garbage out!” What we feed our mind and soul shows up in our reality.

We’re living in an era of information overload. There is so much information but most of it is useless trash.

You want to be extremely picky about what you allow in to your mind and heart.

You need to learn how to consciously choose where you focus your attention instead of unconsciously consuming anything and everything that comes you way.

Hopefully you decided ahead of time what you will and will not allow to grace your personal space.  More importantly you take the time to put some boundaries around the environment you create for yourself.

3. Be around positive people

Negativity sucks away energy. If part of the negativity stems from your attitude or perspective, commit yourself at the beginning of each day and each activity to find something positive in yourself and in others around you. If the people around you are negative and you can’t change that, either remove yourself from the situation or view it simply as one obstacle you face in pursuing your own potential. Stay focused on your own goals and make the best of the situation.

TERRY ORLICK, Embracing Your Potential

It is true you can not change others. However what is also true is you have the ability to choose your friends and family.

You have the ability to set boundaries with the people in your life. You can be upfront and clear you are not going to tolerate negativity.

If you are in a situation where you do not have a whole lot of control such as a work environment, you have the option of leaving.

If you need to stay you can refuse to be a part of the negativity. You refuse to engage.

Negativity requires momentum and energy. It is attracted to those who are on the same wavelength.

If you are keeping your corner clean then negativity will not be attracted to you.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. It is part of what has helped me in my journey.

Take time to share your thoughts and experiences below. What has helped you overcome negativity?

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Peace, Love & Gratitude,





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